Okay. So I haven't published in a week. It's been a difficult week for me. I haven't felt well and was tired and just could not get motivated to write anything. Actually, I started something one day and got interrupted and by the time I got back to it, it was outdated already, so I just deleted it. So there. Get over it.
In my reading this morning I came across a poem in 'Tricyle' magazine that intrigued me. I can't even remember the title of it but the gist of it had to do with our attachments to our opinions and ideas causing the perpetuation of our 'separation mentality'. To have strong opinions is to say that I think I'm right and by implication you are wrong, otherwise I would not be so attached to that particular opinion.
The most trouble I have ever had relationally was always rooted in my need to be 'right'. I used to be totally frustrated (and angry) when others refused to see my side of the argument no matter how perfectly logical it seemed to me. Thus, greater separation, loss of unity, oneness.
I remember a preacher one time tell me that we have to allow the other person a lot of elbow room to make up their own mind about how to interpret the scripture or anything else for that matter. This is not to say that our teachers are not necessary. They can be invaluable guides to help us on the path to understanding and enlightenment but ultimately we all have to come to the truth on our own terms.
To hold my opinions lightly does not mean complete passivity or easy capitulation. It simply means I let go of the emotional attachment to them and do not allow them to separate me from my brother/sister. Another thing we used to teach at our 'Marriage Encounter' weekends (back in the early 80's) was something like; "our relationship is more important than anything over which we may disagree"
Now that's the truth and you better believe it! :)
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